So now that we’ve discussed the characteristics of the Bride and the role of the kidneys/emotional healing in the preparations of the Bride, let’s take a look at what it really means to be the Bride of Messiah.
The Bride in Torah
Genesis 24 gives us a look at the first bride we read about in Torah. This is a very important chapter in understanding the Bride because it is the first marriage that we as the reader see from start to finish; it is a foreshadow and picture of Yeshua and His Bride.
Much in the same way Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for his son, so does Abba YHVH send His servant the Ruach Elohim (the Spirit of God) to find a Bride for His Son Yeshua.
The servant had criterion the Bride must meet. As a sign that she truly was the bride, she had to give him and his camels water; she had to be a servant. Therefore, the possibility for any of the young women of the village coming at that time to get water was open but only Rebecca was obedient enough to shema (hear and obey).
If She Refuses…
There were also instructions for the servant if the woman who met the criteria refused to be the bride.
And if the woman refuses to follow you, then you shall be released from this oath; only, do not take my son back there. Genesis 24:8
And I said to my master, ‘What if the woman does not follow me?’ But he said to me, YHVH, before whom I walk, sends His messenger with you and shall prosper your way. And you shall take a wife for my son from my relatives and from my father’s house. Then, when you go to my relatives, you are to be released from this oath. And if they do not give her to you, then you are released from my oath. Vs. 39-41
If she refused then she is not the Bride and they both were released. YHVH will not force us or anyone else to be the Bride. We must choose to be obedient and listen. Only the Bride has ears to hear and a spirit to obey but if we choose not to listen and obey, YHVH will release us from the call.
The Servant Remained Silent
And watching her, the man remained silent in order to know whether YHVH had prospered his way or not. Vs. 21
The servant remained silent while she did the work required by the covenant before she received the gifts given to the bride. The teacher always remains silent during the test. In the same way, YHVH remains silent when we are being tested…in order to know the intentions of our heart.
…for YHVH your Elohim is trying you to know whether you love YHVH your Elohim with all your heart and with all your being. Deuteronomy 13:3
Let’s not forget that these times are like pop-quizzes and tests. YHVH will look over our work and correct our answers so the next time we can get it right. The final exam is yet to come and all that we study, practice and are tested over now will be exactly what is on the final exam. Will we be ready?
The Bride Knows Who She Is
And I asked her, and said, ‘Whose daughter are you?’ And she said, ‘The daughter of Bethuel, Naḥor’s son, whom Milkah bore to him.’ Then I put the nose ring on her nose and the bracelets on her wrists. Vs. 47
She knew whose daughter she was; she knew who she was and was sure of her identity. Because of this, the covenant was established and the matter was established.
And Laḇan answered – Bethuel too – and said, “The matter comes from YHVH, we are not able to speak to you either evil or good. See, Rebecca is before you. Take her and go, and let her be your master’s son’s wife, as YHVH has spoken. So they called Rebecca and said to her, “Are you going with this man?” And she said, “I shall go.” Vs 50-51, 58
It was established as a matter from YHVH. When she answered, “I shall go,” she abandoned everything and everyone, not recklessly or blindly, but because it had already been established as a matter from YHVH.
Listen, O daughter, and see, and incline your ear, and forget your own people and your father’s house. And let the Sovereign delight in your loveliness; because He is your Master – bow yourself to Him. Psalm 45: 10-11
We are to leave everything behind for our Husband. But how do we really respond when our Husband calls?
And Rebecca and her young women arose, and they rode on the camels and followed the man. So the servant took Rebecca and left. Vs 61
She followed the servant back to her husband. She didn’t just find her own way after doing all the work. Even after hearing and accepting the call and establishing it as a matter from YHVH, she still didn’t try to finish the task on her own. She continued to follow and we too are to continue following the Spirit as He guides us to our Groom. We don’t stop following just because we heard, obeyed and accepted the calling.
Let’s now take a look at some words in Hebrew to help us understand what it really means to be the Bride.
The word in Hebrew for bridegroom is châthân. It means bridegroom, husband, or son-in-law. The root word is châthan (I know they look incredibly similar but I promise they are different.) This root word means to give in marriage; to contract affinity, similarity, resemblance or likeness by marriage. Remember the idea that a Bride reflects her husband from part 2? It comes from this concept of contracting affinity by marriage. So through the purification of the kidneys, the Bride can mirror or reflect her Husband.
When we look at the gematria* for the word châthân, we see that the Bridegroom is
“A wall to surround and divide the heir from the offspring; a wall to contain and surround the heir. The Châthân brings new beginnings, the judgment of YHVH and faith, grace & mercy ten times over.”
The Hebrew for bride is kallah. It means bride, daughter-in-law, or spouse. Spouse is an interesting word because it is not gender specific…meaning the Bride could be male or female. The root word for bride is kalal, which means to complete or make perfect. When we look at the gematria for kallah, we see that being the Bride means
“To allow yourself to bend and be tamed by the shepherd’s staff through the raising of arms which reveals the breath of life. The Bride brings balance between YHVH & man and between man & man ten times over through covenants of faith, grace & mercy.”
Are You the Bride?
To sum up all that we have learned about Elul being the month of the Bride, the Bride is
- A Warrior
- Strong & Courageous
- Face-to-Face with YHVH
- Aligned with YHVH
- Walking in “The Way” of YHVH
- A Mirror of her Husband
- Emotionally Healthy
- Sure of her identity
- A Follower of the Spirit
To be The Bride means to allow yourself to bend and be tamed by the shepherd’s staff through raising of arms which reveals the breath of life. To surrender yourself to your Husband who will breathe life into you.